The Atlanta Dominatrix De-bunks Myths
I probably receive at least 10 calls a week with the same question: "I am not into pain. Is this going to hurt?" My favorite question to date is, "You are not going to make me lick the floors, are you?" My response was, "Not unless you really want to." There are so many myths about BDSM and those myths prevent people from exploring a sexual outlet that is creative, intellectual, sensual, fun, playful and oh so very naughty. And who doesn't like to be naughty every once in a while?
When we go to the Internet and search fetish or BDSM sites, many times we find activities that scare the hell out of us. The Internet does not paint a realistic picture of what the majority of individuals seeking BDSM are into. As with vanilla sex, some things turn you on and some things do not. Below I have listed a few of the most common myths about BDSM. If you are a newbie, read through the myths and if your concerns have been lifted, you know who to call: Atlanta's Number One Mistress, Mistress Rikka.
Ouch, that will hurt!
Only if you want it to. BDSM is not about pain. It is a power exchange between a dominant and a submissive, which does not necessarily involve pain, humiliation or anything else you are uncomfortable with. The reason pain is a popular ingredient in BDSM is because the slightest amount gets the adrenaline pumping through the veins and suddenly the receiver experiences every sensation more intensely including pleasure. Does that mean the dominant needs to beat the hell out of you or do painful things you do not enjoy? Absolutely not. You may not enjoy pain at all and that is okay. It is all personal preference and your preference is something that you and your dominant will discover along the way.
The Mistress can do whatever she wants.
That could be a risky situation depending on whom you play with. I always tell my submissives that domination is a two way street. I get off on control and if I am doing something to you that does not excite or turn you on, I have no control over you. Discovering how to control a submissive is all part of the fun, but the submissive has every right to set limits and to say no. When you play with this beautiful and talented Atlanta Mistress, it is a privilege, but I also consider it a privilege when a submissive is willing to trust me enough to submit. Respect is imperative on both ends. Respect, trust and communication. Without these things, no one will enjoy themselves.
Once I get to know someone, they can come in and say, "Do whatever you want." The difference is, I know that person. We have developed a relationship of respect, trust and communication. No one has the right to do whatever he or she want to you unless you have a relationship of trust. Which is all the more reason to play with the lovely Mistress Rikka.
There must be something wrong with me!
You and Me both, and most likely half of the country, maybe more. When I tell people what I do for a living, they always ask me if my clients are weird. The answer is, "They could not be more normal." They were not abused as children, most are college educated or small business owners, they are drug free and mentally stable, they tend to be in a position of power or control and often times, they are Alpha males or at least secure and confident males.
My personal opinion based on years of playing professionally is the more intelligent and successful a man or woman is, the more likely he or she is to engage in BDSM. Why would this be? First, the largest sex organ we possess is the brain, so if you are smart, the sexual fantasies you have will be much richer, detailed and kinkier than the rest. Secondly, if you are in a position of control or high stress and are dominant throughout the workday, taking a break from also being sexual dominant is necessary for balance. That doesn't mean my clients want to be dominated all the time. Just every once in a while when the pressure builds up.
The most frequently stated reason I hear for seeking out domination services is, "I need a mental break. I am in control all day and I do not want to think anymore." We all need balance in our lives and there is nothing unhealthy or weird with fantasies of being dominated by a beautiful woman. You don't have to think. You are there to please, and you are an object for the Mistress's enjoyment. Is that so weird?
It could be dangerous.
If you play with the wrong person, anything could be dangerous. This myth goes back to a relationship of respect, trust and communication. Communicate any health problems you have before the session. Play with the dominant a few times to build a relationship of respect and trust before exploring edgier aspects of BDSM.
It is also a matter of research. If you play with a pro, do your research. Check out reviews. Ask the Domme questions. Go in for a trial session. If you are open to being tied up at a stranger's house, you better do your research. Who knows what could happen when you are vulnerable and helpless. Maybe it will be unbelievably fantastic or maybe not.
When I graduated from college, I worked as a hair transplant nurse. One of my responsibilities was to clean the surgery room and the surgery instruments. I clean my dungeon room as well as my "instruments" the same way I cleaned before and after surgery. It could be dangerous if you go to a facility where the dungeon has not been cleaned properly. My advice is, leave if the dungeon looks unclean. Leave if the Mistress appears to be drunk or on drugs or you feel uncomfortable in any way. As far as other health risks, if the Mistress does not appear to know what she is doing or does not appear to care about your well-being, leave.
There are very few dangers and risks if you are playing with someone who knows what they are doing. It doesn't take a genius to know that tying a rope around someone's neck could be dangerous or not closely supervising the submissive's reaction could lead to problems. Some people do not have common sense so find someone who does, but also use your own judgment until you build a relationship of trust with your Mistress.
I will be covered in marks.
Only if that is what you want. Most people do not want to have marks left behind. The only time I leave marks is when someone specifically tells me that they would like marks and even then, "the little reminders" disappear in 1 to 3 days. People who enjoy marks are heavy players. The majority of people are light to medium players. Light to medium play does not involve activities that would leave marks. Other than requests for marks, I am extremely cautious and careful not to leave any discriminating evidence. And I would never leave a permanent mark. That type of play is too risky and dangerous for me.
These are just a few of the myths about BDSM. If you have more questions, feel free to contact me. I will be more than happy to debunk any additional myths or concerns you have.
